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Problem Solved Podcast with Therapy Jeff

Havelock’s Dr Karen Gurney tackles Therapy Jeff’s listener questions on topics ranging from partner hygiene to mismatched libido. Tune in for empathetic support and practical advice.

How not to let having kids ruin your sex life

How does sleep (or lack of it!) affect desire? What can we do to cultivate intimacy when we are tried? If you have young children this one is for you. Listen for strategies and conversation about how to get on track!

Are you surprised by the amount of sex people are having?

Havelock’s Dr Karen Gurney talks to Steven Bartlett at Diary of a CEO about why sex is on the decline – think technology and letting your pets into the bedroom! – and how to turn things around if you want more!

How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life

How tiredness, distraction, lack of time and the mental load affect sex lives, and Karen describes the ‘storm’ that children often bring to a relationship. Plus advice and practical ways to maintain (or bring back) sexual connection, particularly when there is no time.

Getting pregnant at home without penis in vagina sex

Do you want to get pregnant but the practicalities are getting the way? Worry not! Here is your guide to doing it without penis in vagina sex.

Free Resources to Improve Your Sex Life

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Exercise: Understanding your motivations for sex and why it matters

A task to complete alone to increase self-understanding around sexual motivations and their effects

Exercise: Understanding your Conditions for Good Sex

A task to complete alone or with a partner, to increase self-understanding and build the foundations of good sex.

How To Have The Conversation To Get The Sex Life You Want

‘Relationships are never static, sex lives are never static but always moving in some kind of trajectory…’

Your Sex Life Reset Exercise

Take 10 minutes to take stock of how your sex life is going, where you want it to go, and how to get there.

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Should we be more Katherine Ryan?

As the comedian reveals she and her husband do it ‘exactly twice a month’, Helen Coffey asks Havelock’s Dr Gurney whether there’s a magic number of trysts when it comes to a healthy sex life – and whether scheduling it could be key to ensuring the heat stays turned up.

Is it normal? Mythbusting for people with penises (part one)

Not being able to orgasm through penetrative sex, having a small penis and losing confidence in your erections- common issues we see in the therapy room. What is normal and when to seek help.

Is it normal? Mythbusting for people with penises (part two)

Coming too soon, taking longer to get aroused as you get older, not feeling up for it all the time- common issues we see in the therapy room. What is normal and when should you seek help?

Getting pregnant at home without penis in vagina sex

Do you want to get pregnant but the practicalities are getting the way? Worry not! Here is your guide to doing it without penis in vagina sex.

If your Sex Life Still isn’t Back on Track After Lockdown, Try Scheduling It In

The ipaper quoting from the Mind The Gap: the truth about desire and how to future proof your sex life, as well as the wonderful Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.

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Problem Solved Podcast with Therapy Jeff

Havelock’s Dr Karen Gurney tackles Therapy Jeff’s listener questions on topics ranging from partner hygiene to mismatched libido. Tune in for empathetic support and practical advice.

How not to let having kids ruin your sex life

How does sleep (or lack of it!) affect desire? What can we do to cultivate intimacy when we are tried? If you have young children this one is for you. Listen for strategies and conversation about how to get on track!

Are you surprised by the amount of sex people are having?

Havelock’s Dr Karen Gurney talks to Steven Bartlett at Diary of a CEO about why sex is on the decline – think technology and letting your pets into the bedroom! – and how to turn things around if you want more!

How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life

How tiredness, distraction, lack of time and the mental load affect sex lives, and Karen describes the ‘storm’ that children often bring to a relationship. Plus advice and practical ways to maintain (or bring back) sexual connection, particularly when there is no time.

Vulga Drawings Podcast

Feminist cartoonist and writer Lily O’Farrell asks ‘what are we learning about pleasure from the internet?’ And what impact does this have on the Orgasm Gap? We joined, sex educator Reed Amber, sexfluencer Scotty Unfamous and Tasha Mansley from SplitBananaaa to chat about it.

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Sex, Desire and Bridging the Orgasm Gap

People often think about sex as something you do with your body. And of course, it is. But it is more than that. Listen to discover how it’s something that connects you with your well being, your gender, with relationships, society, and culture.

Can Jealousy Ever be a Good Thing?

Dr Karen Gurney joins Alan Cumming and Christopher Sweeney for a fascinating chat about cohabitation, doing the dirty and everything in between.

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