Although our sexual expression, preferences and confidence are dictated by biology, a lifetime’s experience and a (very) heavy dose of sociocultural messages, sexual experiences are influenced in the moment by the interplay between three key factors;
- our psychological arousal (i.e. how comfortable we feel, whether what is happening turns us on or off)
- our physical experience (i.e. pleasure/pain)
- the presence or absence of distraction/negative thoughts (i.e. how much we are able to be in the moment rather than in our own evaluations of what’s happening).